Throwing this topic into the ring, is not necessarily about the mistakes that we have made in our lives, but more about the decisions that feed regrets way down the road that watch the years go by.
There are times that our decisions can be very easily influenced by those around us at any given time, especially when we are younger, however and hopefully, our experiences in life as we go along, because of the mistakes and results, will help us to be stronger and to ‘stand for something, lest we fall for anything’, so the saying goes.
Having a very complicated life growing up as an adopted child from another country, made me both fearless and rebellious. So from this very young age, I told things the way it was, to whom ever I felt like and whatever I felt like saying. Not a good thing going to a boys private boarding school and telling the teachers some negative and rude things that I thought of them. This began my rebellious character battle, which would continue for many years.
Going through life, calling it how you see it, is always good, but you certainly want to pick the hills that you may want to die on, as to say. However, as you know well, there are many hills and picking the right one, is not always the easiest. There is always a price to pay, for what you stand up for.
We live in very challenging times, where approximately half of the population think one way and the other half think the opposite and a few inbetweeners.
So some very good values come to mind; Respect each others differences, listen to others with attention, educate yourself by reading history and learning facts, be kind to others, love each other and realize that we may not always be right in our values that were taught to us, so be willing to admit to others and ourselves, when the fog lifts and the sun shines. With all of these things in mind, learn to have a good conversation with others, without malice and enjoy truth.
We arrived in a very complicated world, not by choice and I believe, the very best that we can do, is to make the choice to leave the world in just a little tiny better condition than how we found it.
I do believe in the expression, ‘brick by brick we will build a house’. For there will always be a building inspector at the end.